November 2014

The Danger in Demonizing Male Sexuality


Alyssa Royse explains how our current predator/prey model of sexual relationships is harmful to both men and women.

“I am sorry that generations of lazy storytelling and bad media have perpetuated the myths of men as predators and women as victims. Or the idea that women’s purity is what can redeem the nastiness of male sexuality. It is wrong for both men and women alike. But the only way we’re going to change it is together, and it’s gonna take time. We need to all be better. Oh, hey, I know, we need to come together—if we want to, that is. You can also come alone. Or with someone else. Ain’t no skin off my back, as long as it’s all consensual. And, hopefully, pleasurable.”

Jamie Peck over at The Gloss, wrote a great little piece asking a great big question: Can Men Write About Sex Without Sounding Like Douchebags?  In asking, however, she wasn’t pointing at men and suggesting they are douchebags so much as she was pointing at all of us and suggesting that we have a tendency to demonize male sexuality. She rightly points out that most of the men who achieve any sort of status and acceptability in writing about sex are somewhere on the gender queer spectrum. Sure, James Deen has a successful blog, but if you read most of the comments on it, there’s this weird anger at him for being a porn star, and enjoying it and writing about it. It is couched in the assumption that he is just doing what every guy in the world would fantasize about doing, because, you know, the only thing straight guys want to do is pound as much pussy as possible.

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That skinny motherfucker with the high voice

This video comes online and then is taken down very often, it is the first live rendition of the song Purple Rain back in 1983, and this recording is used for the album, but edited. I saw one version of this video with elaborate comments on screen telling exactly where and when parts were cut, left out, repeated and so on, but that version seems gone. Enjoy 13 minutes of this awesome song 🙂

Hexagram 9


Hexagram 9: small accumulating; R Wilhelm 9: small taming; Hua-Ching Ni 9: small accumulation; HDS Gate 9: gate of focus, the taming power of the small; S Rifler 9: minor restraint; J Blofeld 9: the lesser nourisher; S Karcher 9: small accumulates, gathering the ghosts; GeneKey 9: the power of the infinitesimal

Ik geloof niet in snelle therapieën

Irvin Yalom ‘Ik geloof niet in snelle therapieën’

januari 2009 door Oden. e. (edwin)

Filosofie is de grote inspiratiebron van de beroemde Amerikaanse psychiater Irvin Yalom. Daarmee biedt hij zijn lezers en patiënten geen snelle oplossingen, maar troost en hoop bij existentiële vragen. ‘Juist het besef dat het leven tijdelijk is, helpt ons gelukkig te worden.’
Met zijn ringbaardje en ernstige ogen ziet hij eruit als Sigmund Freud: het archetype van de psychiater.

Irvin Yalom ís ook psychiater. Sterker nog: hij is zo ongeveer de beroemdste psychiater van Amerika. Hij zit ruim veertig jaar in het vak, en werd begin jaren negentig ook wereldberoemd als schrijver. Toen verscheen zijn roman Nietzsches tranen, waarin de filosoof Friedrich Nietzsche in therapie gaat. Sindsdien is Irvin Yalom niet meer weg te slaan uit de bestsellerlijsten. Zijn verhalen over therapeuten en cliënten die antwoorden vinden op de grote levensvragen zijn uit het leven gegrepen, recht uit het hart opgeschreven en daardoor vaak onweerstaanbaar.

Hij is inmiddels 77 en emeritus hoogleraar psychiatrie aan Stanford University, maar wie denkt dat Irvin Yalom rustig geniet van zijn bonsaituin, heeft het mis. Hij spreekt twee cliënten per dag, is mentor voor therapeuten, geeft af en toe les aan studenten, werkt hard aan zijn volgende roman en reist de wereld rond voor de promotie van zijn onlangs verschenen boek Tegen de zon in kijken, over het overwinnen van doodsangst. ‘Geen tijd voor een interview’, zo had hij aanvankelijk in een eenregelig mailtje laten weten. Maar oké, na enig aandringen wilde hij wel anderhalf uur vrijmaken.
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The Genetic Hierarchy

“The Human Design System shows how the four types actually make up a structured ‘genetic hierarchy’, which highlights the way different human beings are designed to interact with each other. In this hierarchy, we are all interdependent, just like the cells that make up our bodies. Below is a symbolic matrix of the way in which the four types interlock with each other. The two energy types, manifestors and generators form the creative foundation, with projectors at the top of the hierarchy being the natural guides, although they are also dependent on the two energy types below. In the centre are the reflectors. These people are designed to be the hub of their communities, playing a vital role in bringing a sense of justice and balance to the hierarchy as a whole.” -Richard Rudd, Opening Doors with Gene Keys


a man with an accordion heart und a woman cloaked in thunder…


The Book Thief (2013)

While subjected to the horrors of World War II Germany, young Liesel finds solace by stealing books and sharing them with others. In the basement of her home, a Jewish refugee is being sheltered by her adoptive parents.

Director: Brian Percival
Writers: Markus Zusak (based on the novel by), Michael Petroni (screenplay)
Stars: Sophie Nélisse, Geoffrey Rush, Emily Watson, Nico Liersch, Ben Schnetzer